THINGS TO MAKE A GRAPH ABOUT 

What should I make a graph about?

You can make a graph of anything. Why is it useful? Because it’s a really different way of looking at aspects of your life, in a way that you don’t normally do. It may seem wonky, but it can be a refreshing perspective on a complicated, and emotional, topic.

Making a graph makes you to think about the things you value. When you live according to your values, you are more at peace, centered. But what are your values? They are the things that are important to you. In the sexual realm they may be things like: feeling loved, being in touch with your body, expressing your feelings, being in control, being out of control, releasing tension, showing care. While you are making a graph, think about what you do during sex, and what you want out of sex. Ideally, these are the same things! 

A graph can be like a timeline of activities, where more cubes means more time spent on that activity. Or it can be more like a bar graph, where you are comparing how much you value certain things. Your graph can be anyway you want it, as long as it’s meaningful to you.

You can make a graph online on the graph-making tool or you can order supplies to make your graph by hand for a more tactile experience. Here are some ideas for things you might want to make a graph about:

Fifty Graph Ideas

1. Your favorite sexual activities – rank them!
2. Things that turn you off
3. A long, leisurely sexual experience
4. A quickie
5. How you like to be stimulated
6. Your masturbation routine
7. An experience you didn’t like that much
8. A fantasy you might like to try
9. A fantasy you don’t want to try
10. An experience where you just receive pleasure
11. An experience where you just give pleasure
12. Aspects of your sexual self
13. A good sexual memory
14. How your sex life has changed over time
15. Categories of sexual partners you’ve had
16. Fluctuations in your level of desire
17. A typical sexual “flow” 
18. A sexual experience you regret
19. The last time you had sex
20. How to make you come
21. Morning sex
22. How you give oral – your technique
23. Your sexual skills
24. Your first sexual experience – what happened?
25. First time with a new partner
26. The build-up to sex over the course of a day
27. Things that get you in the mood
28. How you like to be wooed
29. Your sensual self-care routine
30. Your after care requirements
31. What is important to you about sex
32. What is important to you about your sexuality
33. An aspect of your sexual history
34. Your partner’s best technique
35. Where your mind goes during sex
36. Your erogenous zones
37. Your partner’s favorite sexual flow
38. What makes you feel loved
39. Places you’ve had sex
40. A role play scenario
41. How you like to be touched
42. How you like to be kissed
43. Your lovers, ranked
44. Your sexual foreplay
45. Your flirting technique
46. What adds to your enjoyment
47. What is kink to you
48. What you plan to do tonight
49. What you want your partner to do to you
50. What you want to do to your partner