THINGS TO MAKE A GRAPH ABOUT
What should I make a graph about?
You can make a graph of anything. Why is it useful? Because it's a really different way of looking at aspects of your life, in a way that you don't normally do. It may seem wonky, but it can be a refreshing perspective on a complicated, and emotional, topic.
Making a graph makes you to think about the things you value. When you live according to your values, you are more at peace, centered. But what are your values? They are the things that are important to you. In the sexual realm they may be things like: feeling loved, being in touch with your body, expressing your feelings, being in control, being out of control, releasing tension, showing care. While you are making a graph, think about what you do during sex, and what you want out of sex. Ideally, these are the same things!
A graph can be like a timeline of activities, where more cubes means more time spent on that activity. Or it can be more like a bar graph, where you are comparing how much you value certain things. Your graph can be anyway you want it, as long as it's meaningful to you.
You can make a graph online on the graph-making tool or you can order supplies to make your graph by hand for a more tactile experience. Here are some ideas for things you might want to make a graph about:
Fifty Graph Ideas
- Your favorite sexual activities - rank them!
- Things that turn you off
- A long, leisurely sexual experience
- A quickie
- How you like to be stimulated
- Your masturbation routine
- An experience you didn't like that much
- A fantasy you might like to try
- A fantasy you don't want to try
- An experience where you just receive pleasure
- An experience where you just give pleasure
- Aspects of your sexual self
- A good sexual memory
- How your sex life has changed over time
- Categories of sexual partners you've had
- Fluctuations in your level of desire
- A typical sexual "flow"
- A sexual experience you regret
- The last time you had sex
- How to make you come
- Morning sex
- How you give oral - your technique
- Your sexual skills
- Your first sexual experience - what happened?
- First time with a new partner
- The build-up to sex over the course of a day
- Things that get you in the mood
- How you like to be wooed
- Your sensual self-care routine
- Your after care requirements
- What is important to you about sex
- What is important to you about your sexuality
- An aspect of your sexual history
- Your partner’s best technique
- Where your mind goes during sex
- Your erogenous zones
- Your partner’s favorite sexual flow
- What makes you feel loved
- Places you’ve had sex
- A role play scenario
- How you like to be touched
- How you like to be kissed
- Your lovers, ranked
- Your sexual foreplay
- Your flirting technique
- What adds to your enjoyment
- What is kink to you
- What you plan to do tonight
- What you want your partner to do to you
- What you want to do to your partner