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50 graphs to make

THINGS TO MAKE A GRAPH ABOUT 

Graph-making idea # 74

What should I make a graph about?

You can make a graph of anything. Why is it useful? Because it’s a really different way of looking at aspects of your life, in a way that you don’t normally do. It may seem wonky, but it can be a refreshing perspective on a complicated, and emotional, topic.

Making a graph makes you to think about the things you value. When you live according to your values, you are more at peace, centered. But what are your values? They are the things that are important to you. In the sexual realm they may be things like: feeling loved, being in touch with your body, expressing your feelings, being in control, being out of control, releasing tension, showing care. While you are making a graph, think about what you do during sex, and what you want out of sex. Ideally, these are the same things! 

A graph can be like a timeline of activities, where more cubes means more time spent on that activity. Or it can be more like a bar graph, where you are comparing how much you value certain things. Your graph can be anyway you want it, as long as it’s meaningful to you.

You can make a graph online on the graph-making tool or you can order supplies to make your graph by hand for a more tactile experience. Here are some ideas for things you might want to make a graph about:

Fifty Graph Ideas

  1. Your favorite sexual activities – rank them!
  2. Things that turn you off
  3. A long, leisurely sexual experience
  4. A quickie
  5. How you like to be stimulated
  6. Your masturbation routine
  7. An experience you didn’t like that much
  8. A fantasy you might like to try
  9. A fantasy you don’t want to try
  10. An experience where you just receive pleasure
  11. An experience where you just give pleasure
  12. Aspects of your sexual self
  13. A good sexual memory
  14. How your sex life has changed over time
  15. Categories of sexual partners you’ve had
  16. Fluctuations in your level of desire
  17. A typical sexual “flow” 
  18. A sexual experience you regret
  19. The last time you had sex
  20. How to make you come
  21. Morning sex
  22. How you give oral – your technique
  23. Your sexual skills
  24. Your first sexual experience – what happened?
  25. First time with a new partner
  26. The build-up to sex over the course of a day
  27. Things that get you in the mood
  28. How you like to be wooed
  29. Your sensual self-care routine
  30. Your after care requirements
  31. What is important to you about sex
  32. What is important to you about your sexuality
  33. An aspect of your sexual history
  34. Your partner’s best technique
  35. Where your mind goes during sex
  36. Your erogenous zones
  37. Your partner’s favorite sexual flow
  38. What makes you feel loved
  39. Places you’ve had sex
  40. A role play scenario
  41. How you like to be touched
  42. How you like to be kissed
  43. Your lovers, ranked
  44. Your sexual foreplay
  45. Your flirting technique
  46. What adds to your enjoyment
  47. What is kink to you
  48. What you plan to do tonight
  49. What you want your partner to do to you
  50. What you want to do to your partner
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Magnetic Graphic Sex Opened!

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Interview with Tickle.Life 

Shakun at Tickle.life opens her new Magnetic Graphic Sex live and we go through the fun and games together. I explain what it’s all about and how this simple tool can have a powerful effect on your sex life. Shakun starts her graph off with cuddling, and she’ll take it from there! Find out my inspiration for the Graphic Sex Project from my own life, and what it’s like becoming a sexual health entrepreneur.

 
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Sexual Creativity and the GSP

Sexual Creativity

 Sexual Creativity and the GSP

two lady love sesh

A participant at the Graphic Sex Project wrote me to say making a graph inspired them to think of other different and creative ideas to express their sexuality. This made me so happy! Success! I really believe the Project helps you harness your creativity as a powerful way to realize a more fulfilling sex life.
 
Just look at the “two-lady love sesh” above: an artistic endeavor is their foreplay.
 
Good sex is itself a creative endeavor – and I don’t mean biologically pro-creative. Being a good lover is so much about thinking of new ways to give and receive. You are listening to your partner’s body and responding creatively with your own – such a dance of pleasure. How can you touch them in a different way than you have before? What subtle shift will cause more pleasure? What rhythm will bring your bodies in a more perfect synchronization? 
 
It’s paying attention to now, not simply doing what you’ve always done before. It’s improvisational.
 
The combination of your mouth, your fingers, the heel of your hand, the pressure of an elbow, the slide of a leg, the genitalia – all are instruments in a  symphony you are playing on their body, and they on yours.
 
So if it is creative, then it makes sense that all kinds of creativity can speak to the sexual experience, and become a tool for a deeper understanding of your desires. You create the connections in your brain. If you make art and think about sex – then when you have sex that art becomes a reference. 
 
Haven’t you danced to a song you love and it made you feel sexy? Same thing. The Graphic Sex Project connects your creative brain to sexual brain. How else can you wake up your creative/sexual spirit?
 
Deepak Chopra famously said “Creativity is ultimately sexual.” Sex is clearly the inspiration for a lot of creative output, but I’m suggesting the opposite: that creativity with  can inspire sex. As long as you are thinking about sex while you are being creative.
 
Write a poem about sex. Take arty pictures of your partner’s skin. Draw your partner. Draw your genitals. Write an erotic short story. Paint the flow of your love-making. Improvise music to your partner masturbating. 
 
Here’s a cool idea. Alexander Esguerra and Tyler Peters make art by covering lovers bodies with paint (non-toxic) and putting them on a canvas to have sex. 
 
Get the Magnetic Graphic Sex Kit and play with the colored squares and words. Each time you play, are making a piece of art and inspiring your next sexual encounter. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Sticking up for Gloves

Sticking up for Gloves 

Gloves get a bad rap. They are the butt of every safe sex joke (yes, pun intended). A doctor putting on a glove is always good for a laugh in movies. (Ahhh! They’re gonna put their finger up the butt! hahhahahah!).

I’m not going to talk about safe sex. You can read about how great they are for that here

I’m going to write about how much fun they are. They are a great sex toy! They can morph into a thousand different shapes to stimulate all your parts in thousand different ways (hand not included).  Here are a few of the great things about gloves:

  1. Super soft and silky. I like the nitrile ones – smooth like an expensive vibrator. It’s a really nice contrast with bare skin.
  2. Smooths over rough skin and nails so nothing touching your tender parts is sharp.
  3. Really adaptable for all body parts – great on the outsides and the insides
  4. Makes anal play easy if you feel a little squicked out. When you finish with that part the gloves comes right off – hand is all clean! To be really rocking it, have another glove ready underneath the first.
  5. The anticipation of watching someone put a glove on is delicious.
  6. The added fun of NOT having to worry about cuts on hands, cross-orifice infection, and other STI risks.
  7. They don’t absorb lubrication like hands do, so everything stays nice and slippery.
  8. They are super cheap – a box of hundred for $8

So get over all the butt and body shame inherent in all the proctologist jokes and glove snickering, and get a box of gloves for a new fun thing to play with.